Topics: Psychology of Evil, Three Good Things, Best Retreat, Morning Pages, Mental Traps
BY HENDRIK MUSEKAMP
Photo by Spencer Pugh
Hi all! It’s Friday. Hence, here is your weekly dose of hmx-weekly, a list of what I’m enjoying, pondering, or working on this week. Enjoy.
THE PSYCHOLOGY OF EVIL
This TED-Talk by Phil Zimbardo contains nasty images. Heads-up! The main question asked is why good people turn evil. Is it inherited traits or the situations? Or something else? A major lesson in leadership.
THREE BLESSINGS EXERCISE
This takes a few moments each evening. What’s been great today? What’s been your role? Put it on paper. At least think about it. No downside. All upside. Join me on coach.me.
Each night before going to bed, clients write down (or at least think about) three good things that happened that day. Then (this part is crucial) they ask themselves what they did to make each good thing happen. Often people are unaware of their own role in good fortune. For example, someone cannot make a beautiful sunset, but they can choose to take it in (or not). This exercise is so simple it may feel simpleminded to many. However, it is receiving strong empirical support. Subjects participating in the three blessings (vs. placebo exercise of writing about childhood) were happier and less depressed six months after one week of three blessings homework.
– Carol Kauffman, The Complete Handbook of Coaching
THE BEST RETREAT IS IN HERE, NOT OUT THERE
People seek retreats for themselves in the country, by the sea, or in the mountains. You are very much in the habit of yearning for those same things. But this is entirely the trait of a base person, when you can, at any moment, find such a retreat in yourself. For nowhere can you find a more peaceful and less busy retreat than in your own soul—especially if on close inspection it is filled with ease, which I say is nothing more than being well-ordered. Treat yourself often to this retreat and be renewed.”
—MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS, 4.3.1
“Wherever you go, there you are” – famous expression by Jon Kabat-Zinn, author of Full Catastrophe Living, and more. If you’re ability to calm down depends on a certain place or circumstance, you might be f***** one day. Big part of getting unshakeable or anti-fragile according to the stoics is to train your perception, and automatic reactions. Try meditation (e.g. headspace.com or calm.com) or morning pages (see below).
3 MENTAL TRAPS
Tony Robbins on 3 mental traps to avoid when striving to make progress.
MORE ON MO(U)RNING PAGES
Short video by Julia Cameron author of the Artist’s Way explaining morning pages, or as she prefers mourning pages.
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